A Cashier at a Bismarck Grocery Store Paid for a Family's Cart Without Anyone Asking
When a mother of three started putting items back at the register on a Saturday afternoon, Marlene Bauer made a small decision that she would not have called noteworthy. The family disagreed.

The line at register four of the Cash Wise grocery store on East Bismarck Expressway was four customers deep on the Saturday afternoon of May twenty-fourth.
Marlene Bauer was working the register. She was fifty-nine, had been with the store for almost fifteen years, and was wearing the small American flag pin she always pinned above her name tag on weekends.
The customer second in line was a woman in her early thirties with three children, all under the age of ten. The oldest was a girl carrying a loaf of bread. The middle child was a boy with one shoe untied. The youngest was a toddler riding in the cart seat in a winter hat, despite the weather.
The cart was full but not extravagant. Milk, eggs, two packs of chicken thighs, off-brand cereal, peanut butter, a bag of apples, dish soap, a small package of diapers, two birthday candles, and a boxed cake mix.
The woman's name, Marlene would not learn until later, was Jessamine Tate. She had moved to Bismarck the previous fall after leaving a difficult situation in Minot. She was working two part-time jobs. The toddler in the cart was turning two on Monday.
When Jessamine's turn came at the register, she set her items on the belt with the small careful efficiency of a person who had done the math on the way to the store.
Marlene scanned the items. The total came to one hundred and thirty-seven dollars and eighty-two cents.
Jessamine's debit card was declined.
She did not panic. She has said since, in a piece she eventually wrote for a regional parenting magazine, that she has been there before and she had a system. The system was to ask Marlene, calmly and quietly, to remove items until the total fit what she had.
What she had, that afternoon, was sixty-three dollars.
She started with the diapers. Then the cake mix. Then the birthday candles. Then one of the packs of chicken thighs.
The line behind her grew longer.
The line behind her grew longer.
The middle child, the boy with the untied shoe, watched the candles go back on the small return shelf. He did not say anything. The oldest, the girl with the bread, kept her eyes on the floor. The toddler in the cart sucked on the brim of her winter hat.
Marlene has told the story since to her own daughter, who told it to a friend, who eventually told it to a reporter. Marlene has been clear, every time, that she did not plan what she did. She did not have a speech ready. She did not, in fact, want anyone making a big deal out of it.
What she did was reach under her register, pull out her own debit card, and quietly run the items Jessamine had set aside.
She did not announce it. She did not say anything to Jessamine until Jessamine looked up, confused, at the sound of the second card being swiped.
Marlene leaned slightly across the counter. She said, in a low voice, that today was on her. She said it the way a person might say that today was free coffee day, or that today the parking lot was newly paved.
Jessamine did not cry at the register. She has said since that she held it in until she got to her car. She held it in through the loading of the bags. She held it in through buckling all three children into their car seats. She held it in until she sat down in the driver's seat and the toddler in the back asked why mama was making a face.
Then she cried for a long time.
She came back into the store fifteen minutes later. She asked the customer service desk for the name of the woman at register four. The shift manager, a man named Garrett Yount, asked her why.
Jessamine told him.
Garrett, who has worked retail for almost twenty years, told her he was going to need a minute. He stepped into the back office. He came out with a small piece of paper with Marlene Bauer's name printed on it.

Jessamine drove home. She made dinner. She baked a small cake on Monday for her daughter's birthday, with two candles in it, and she sang the song.
The next weekend, she came back to the store. She brought a thank-you card she had let her daughter help draw. She asked for Marlene. Marlene was on her break.
Jessamine waited.
When Marlene came out, Jessamine handed her the card and said, simply, that the cake mix had been for her daughter's second birthday, and that she did not know how to thank her.
Marlene, by Jessamine's account, hugged her in the customer service area and said, into her shoulder, that she did not need to be thanked. She said she had four grandchildren of her own. She said any one of them could have been the toddler in the hat.
The story stayed inside the store for almost two months. It came out only because Jessamine wrote a piece for a North Dakota parenting magazine called Prairie Mother, in which she did not name the cashier but described her in detail.
A local reporter put the pieces together. The Bismarck Tribune ran a short article. Marlene declined a longer interview.
She did say, in a brief phone call with the reporter, that she had not paid for anyone's full cart since. She had paid for small things, here and there. A gallon of milk. A bag of apples. She said it was not a habit she made a show of. She said she just did it when she could afford it and when the situation called for it.
She did not, she said, want to be called a hero. She used the word neighbor instead, and then she used the word coworker, which surprised the reporter. She said her coworkers at Cash Wise had done the same thing for her in the years after her husband, Frank, died in 2019. She said she was paying it sideways.
Jessamine Tate is still in Bismarck. She is working one job now instead of two. Her daughter is two and a half. The middle child has learned to tie his shoe.
Marlene Bauer is still on register four most Saturdays. She still wears the small American flag pin. She still keeps her debit card under the counter.
She has not, when asked, agreed to be interviewed again.
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Lila Renshaw
Lila Renshaw writes for The Shoreline on stories worth sitting with.
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